Fingering
Rubbing yourself, or masturbating, is not only enjoyable when you are by yourself, it can also help you enjoy sex with a partner. The advantage of masturbation is that you can rub yourself any way you like; you can try rubbing different areas of your body in different ways to see what arouses you. This will help you learn how you can achieve an orgasm. You can then tell or show your sex partner.
Are you fingering her?
Start with arousing her a little by kissing and stroking her. Tease her by skimming over her vulva. If you notice that she starts to get excited and that her vulva becomes moist, you can start fingering her by gently sliding your fingers in between her labia. If it doesn't go very smoothly, arouse her a little more or lick your fingers or use a little lubricant to wet them.
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Peter Leusink is a GP in the Netherlands and there he is also active in the sexology clinic of the Green Heart Hospital in Gouda. He is also a sexologist from the University Medical Centre Utrecht. He regularly trains students, general practitioners, nurses and specialists in sexology.
He was until recently chairman of the Dutch Association for Sexology. He is co-editor of the newly published book 'Sexual dysfunctions, diagnosis and treatment'.
In January 1, 2011, Peter became Head Editor of the Dutch & Belgium Journal of Sexology.